Will Trump Also Revoke Our Blogging Credentials?

Imagine being denied a right to blog.

Will letters to the editors be banned, or disagreeing comments to our legislators not be allowed?

Will peaceful demonstrations become violations, and will library’s be closed because they offer material considered by some to be calculatedly false?

News organizations may have biases. But their reporters need open access to any event, and if the event’s actors don’t like the published spin, then they should seek support from other publications whose spin is more closely of their same position.

We importantly need a Fox, MSNBC, CBS, CNN, BBC, ABC, etc., and every other newspaper and media resource in the country.

A rabbi taught me that there must never be any restriction to looking for the truth,  and that the student of life can never be denied access to anything.  Veritas odit moras — truth abhors delay.

Our society stands on pillars of no discrimination against even the unpleasant and disagreeable opinions. Ideas cannot be repressed; societies attempting to do this choke themselves to death. Some actions certainly need limitations for the public safety.  But an action is not the same as an opinion.

Understanding current events is difficult. I knew a teacher who read at least two different newspapers every day. Indeed, we have different teachers so to expose students to different styles and perspectives; erudition is learning to analyze and think,  not merely to memorize or yield. To be dexterous in decision making one must at least earnestly consider the how and why of an opponent’s claims, and a rejection  or acceptance of them, in full or in part, may follow.

Revoking, or threatening to do so, press credentials because they “lie” is the utmost terrorization of our foundational values. Let those who choose to falsify continue to do so, but for that lies are fragile possessions, and a free press will eventually smash them apart. Fabricating journalists will in due course feed the truthful ones.

If you don’t like a news media, challenge other news media sources to confront and defy the first media source! Let the test begin; the cards will fall where they may. Open, do not close, media doors.

Let me choose the material to read and study as I decide for whom I want to vote.

Insulting a media source insults the process for which many died, and worked, and debated, in an effort to protect the platform from which you now insult. It is an insult to hear your insults.

 

 

 

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Trump’s Manners Takes Away The Process That I Want My Vote To Reflect

A leader must have good table manners.  We do critique people by their table manners. Showing bad table manners will rise doubts about how far one’s other life-style manners, good or bad, stretch. Most corporate and social positions demand good habits, and many employees or social partners would hear “You’re fired!” if willfully done and repeated bad social manners were neglected.

Mocking or belittling one’s opponents cannot be because in government those mocked or belittled still hold positions, and someday their cooperation will be needed. Grandmothers teach us that what goes around comes around. So while winning a race will require some political vitriol, challengers are not complete enemies. Years ago Senator McCain, running against President Obama, corrected a questioner, saying Mr. Obama and he did have differences, but Mr. Obama was a good man. Trump lacks that flavor on his ice cream menu. That is why so many people won’t buy at his store.

It is also increasingly disrobing down to the underside of a temperament if someone projects that any loses he faces in the future stem because of cheating by other forces. Just the voicing the concept of a swindle to explain away a lost is backward, petty, and painful logic. A good executive or a good official needs to instead ask “what did I miss, how did I not get my point across so others chose me?”

It frightens me when leaders do not acknowledge their errors.

It also worries me about the backcloth of the supporters’ maquillage – is it surface greasepaint or is it from deep within them?  Do they enjoy the absence of good manners?

It frightens me even more if there is not an announced public policy that the leader intends to learn from his errors. My failures are usually the product of not learning enough from my mistakes.

This election now hovers more on temperaments than on issues. Both domains need consideration in an election. I’ll be fair and listen to details of Trump’s positions. But thus far I hear promises without details. I’m bored of his now monotonous humor that underlines his repeated insults. He fails to understand that repeatedly insulting will deplete the power of the insult. Slapstick and vaudeville routines poop out because there is a shortage of new shockers. This then makes it easier for those who disagree  with him to ignore his comments because we numb and tire of the repetition. It also strengthens the detachment away from trusting him such that he can actually approach a problem with different concepts and verbiage.

Convince me without insults. Be a statesman who demonstrates the value of deep learning. Don’t just promise.

It’s so difficult and unsettling to embrace and interact with someone’s honesty, wisdom and insight when the manners are so bad.

I’m glad I can vote ward to off what I am not being given a chance to understand.  But it takes away the process that I want my vote to reflect. Allow me to vote on a mix of temperaments and issues. Those two elements, so indispensable to the best steadiness, are not viable options anymore. The table manners are so bad I can’t sit at his table.

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For Whom Does Donald Trumpet?

Sit quietly and listen to a gentle sonata. Eavesdrop into the nuances of the harmonics and how the melody innately knows how to give you pause to let you think and feel. Music is powerful because it is truthful.

So much focus is on who Trump is and what he says. List his words and his grimaces. Listen to conclusions  and summaries. They are usually not forthright or fully truthful.  Oh, yes, perhaps there is the appearance of a small pit of truth. But these kernels are not tested life giving seeds. They are attractive attention-grabbers that play to an audience who accepts that an outside is truly reflective of the inside. It’s the book versus the cover.

He plays his trumpet to the non-detail seekers. He speaks like the just graduated lawyer who challenges the tone and weathered wisdom of a seasoned judge. Prolonged learning does more to become humbled than to acquiring a library of facts.

His trumpet is a call to battle. But to which battle?  To make a better world is all well and good. But his music plays to a large audience who, I think, does not feel compelled to wonder about the greater truths — or not — within his conclusions and allegations.

He advances his cause by bluntly breaking into fears with audacious statements such that now many of his own party members will not support him. His quipping sound bites are too often then reactively reframed. They are born in a manner that makes it hard to see though the quip to the nuances. When he says Obama and Clinton founded ISIS, it could be said that he meant that because of their polices, the environment was such that ISIS evolved. But the Trump music was that ISIS is the direct and sloppy product of these Democrats. His musicians hit with a sound bite, not the nuance, and the audiences did not seem perturbed with the portrayed simplicity. War is not generally won by those who vote to  merely declare it, and nor is it won by a single person  who is not married to the interplay of politicians, historians, and military.

It’s humiliating that one of our candidates is losing the support of his own expected and steadfast audience; a day does not pass that more of his own party liberate themselves from him and recant their loyalty.  How embarrassing in front of the world that so many of his own political kin have tribulations about endorsing him.  It’s like the person who is supposed to say “I love you” to their spouse but cannot utter, even mechanically, the words because the feeling is not there.

His trumpet may sound sweet to him and to the now shrinking audience. The music, however, is not an universally soothing harmony. He needs to ask why so many become fearsome as they take notice of the music’s dissonance. And  he should not dismiss those  who step away from him as evidence that they are truly and finally revealing that they too are part of the problem he says he can fix.  Disagree with him to draw open the curtain  which when shows the backstage ideology of the unfeigned temperaments underscoring this race.

If he wants to be president, he needs to listen to his own music.  Being president is not a solo performance. What comforting truth lives in his music?

And yes,  to be fair, other candidates must also listen to their own music.

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Looking into Trump

I’ve been asked to use my psychiatric training to explain Trump, but I cannot do that. I would need a face-to-face interview to answers my questions and get information, all to help me further understand him as a person wanting to  be my my president.  But unless such an interview was public, he gets all the protections of confidentiality. He, nor anyone, should be diagnosed by speculation. So do not view this as a diagnosis; it is, however, a list of my concerns as a citizen.

So even though most of my data is based on what others report about his business or political history, I am privileged to see him, as have so many others, react spontaneously. The of the moment response tells so much. I see a jokester who claims a humor within his own brand or trademark of seriousness,  tossing insults that he calls as merely descriptively honest. These are, according to him, brave and refreshing comments that others fear making because others lack the guts to do so. This is an  process that he bookmarks as unique to him because he claims to uniquely have the gumption to publically label in manners that other people would consider embarrassingly unsophisticated.

Being unsophisticated also allows for simplicity and lack of nuance to be improperly given the same status of a well thought-out truth.

I sense that for him the presidency was a personal challenge, a goal in his game of life, of something bigger than being a billionaire.

I also sense that the reality of being president may now frighten him. It’s scary to be at the real top. It’s scary to be elected to run someone else’s business – our country! – in opposition to running one’s own business. It’s been suggested that he secretly wants to loose, but withdrawal is not an Trump option — that would be too big of a concession. Lose because of others — externalize the blame!

Make a business mistake and perhaps several thousand suffer. Make a presidential mistake and millions may suffer. History is incredibly frank and laughs or blames in a certain penetrating way.

Being the US President is the most public job in the world. Very smart people study the person and his choices in every detail; they often find flaws that if enacted can cause injury or death. Has Mr. Trump ever had to make a decision that might result in someone’s death? He certainly doesn’t act as if that is within his emotional familiarity.

He cannot no longer withdraw and conceal his real style. The world will not allow that.

He needs the humbleness and humor of Bob Hope.  Who can trust a person who chooses to do surgery without medical school just because they were so financially successful?

But he is the candidate! We need to see his strengths with details.  Please share them. And please let us see your weaknesses — you claim to know everyone elses’. We want a strong leader with human fragility and tenderness. Perhaps, however, you are just what you appear to be.

 

 

 

 

 

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What I Want To Know About Trump

Few, if any politician, sleeps on truly clean sheets.

But when a candidate declares himself to be so insightful and so especially skilled in what my world needs, I wonder what gives him such perspective. I want to know the style of his empathy, for a working empathy needs to be as instrumental to a leader as is a strong and grounded decisiveness.  I want my leader’s core personality not to even be able to mock people with birth or injury based handicaps.

Show me how or when he ponders and meditates in a slow and deliberate manner.

What does he do for society that will not make a profit for himself or others, or which will not expand the display of his name?

Has he ever endowed a university chair?

Who is his philosophic mentor?

Does he like opera, classical or country or folk music, or theater?

Has he ever personally donated blood at a blood drive?

Does he financially support programs for needy kids, or help get food to the poor or elderly, or support other similar grassroots charities?

Does he financially support art programs or efforts to save forests, animals, or our natural lands?

If elected, will he  pay the taxes and then donate the rest of his presidential salary to a list of charities?  Or will he give  the money to help pay off our national debt? Or  perhaps give all of it to the Veterans Administration’s effort to deal with veterans with PTSD?

He promises much, he reports success in his business world, but our world (i.e., the rest of us) needs proof that he understands and acts on what our days, our needs, and our worries — the big ones and the little ones —  are like.

These are some of my questions.

Show us who you are.

(He can post the answers below.)

 

 

 

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Just one day not being sick…

I suspect that most of us tire of every day facing the task of organizing our medications. Not a huge task, but a task nonetheless.

We need a day  of rest.

I would like one day a week when I was not sick. A day of not having to measure sugars or of taking medication. A reprieve. A day of less responsibility. It would feel great. Maybe it could seen as a gift for a week well-worked?

My cells don’t know that my psychology has declared today as a ‘rest day’ — they need to be regularly fed with the medications that make them better function so I, in total, also function better. I know that. But the emotional draw to a day off is real. Imagine, Sundays could be no med days!

This is a case of what is good for some of my emotions is not good for all of me. I’m sure others feel the same draw.

…and I write this as I dole out the morning meds that, thankfully, keep me alive.

Just a couple of early morning thoughts.

 

 

 

 

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Thanking vets – A smile and a tear

Yesterday an older woman came for her appointment. It was the first time I ‘d met her boyfriend. In the course of talking, she noted a bit of his history — he was wounded in WWII. Of course I had to inquire. He was one of the many who landed on the D-Day beaches — he carried a radio — he called it ‘a really old fashion version of a cell phone.’ He was shot in the leg. And he is on a walker to this day.

I mentioned this to my daughter who was helping in the office — she spoke to me of never having met more than a very few WWII vets. Her grandfather, whom she sadly never met, was a WWII vet.

She shook his hand and said thank you to him for his service and for helping to make our world better.

“You’re welcome,” he said.  We could see the mixture of a smile and a tear.

His girlfriend then said he doesn’t like to talk about it much. As she said this he further nodded yes.

So unbeknownst to outsiders, my daughter and this gentleman had an experience that spanned 72 years; it also gave new life so it will live on to another generation. It was good for that man, for her, and for all of us.

 

 

 

 

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